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Writer's picturePaula Sampson Lawrence

Raising Resilient Daughters


Mother and daughter hugging and smiling
Mother and daughter hugging and smiling

Raising resilient daughters is one of the most important tasks a parent can undertake. Raising a daughter to be strong, independent, and confident is key to her future success and happiness.


Below are some strategies that parents can use to help their daughters become resilient and successful in life.


1. Encourage Independence


It is important to encourage independence in your daughter. This means allowing her to make her own decisions and mistakes, this will help her learn to trust her own judgement and develop problem-solving skills.

Let her know that it is okay to take risks and to make mistakes, as this will help her become more resilient. You can also encourage her to try new activities and to explore different interests. Taking risks can help your daughter become more confident and self-reliant.

Teach her life skills like cooking, budgeting, and managing her time are important for developing independence. Teach her these skills, and help her practice them.Encouraging her to be independent is essential for her development and growth.



2. Teach Problem-Solving


It is also important to teach your daughter problem-solving skills as this is an important skill that can help them throughout their entire lives. It can help them in school, in their relationships, and in their career. Problem-solving skills can help her to think critically, analyze situations, and come up with creative solutions to difficult problems. There are many different ways to teach problem-solving, depending on her age and level of understanding. One way to teach problem-solving to kids is to give your daughter opportunities to practice it. This could be done through games, puzzles, or activities that require her to think through a problem and come up with a solution. For younger kids, it could be as simple as playing a game of Simon Says or giving her a jigsaw puzzle to work through. For older kids, it could be a game of chess or a logic puzzle.

Another way to teach problem-solving is to discuss real-life problems with your daughter. This could be done by talking about current events or discussing a difficult situation she is facing. Ask her questions about the problem and help her to think it through. Encourage her to come up with her own solutions and talk through the pros and cons of each option.

It is also important to teach your daughter how to break down a problem into smaller parts. This will help her to understand the problem better and come up with a better solution. Ask her questions about the problem and help her to think it through. Show her how to look at the problem from different angles and come up with different solutions.

It is particularly important to give your daughter the opportunity to practice problem-solving in a safe environment and get feedback on her efforts. This will help her to become more confident in their problem-solving abilities.




3. Model Resilience


As a parent, teacher, or mentor, you can model resilience in girls by sharing your own experiences of facing challenges and overcoming them. You can also provide girls with positive role models who have persevered through difficult times. When girls see others succeeding despite difficult circumstances, it can help them develop the confidence and determination to do the same.

It is also important to provide girls with a safe environment where they can express their feelings and be heard. This can help them understand that it is okay to have negative emotions and to work through them. Additionally, it can help them recognize that they are not alone in their struggles and that there are people who can help them.



4. Provide Support


First, be there for her. Listen to her and take her feelings seriously. Let her know that you are available to talk and that you won't judge her. Show her that you care by being present in her life and showing her that you are interested in what she has to say.

Second, be encouraging. Let her know that she is capable and that you believe in her. Praise her efforts and help her to stay focused on her goals. Encourage her to try new things and to take risks.

Third, be a role model. Show her how to handle difficult situations with grace and poise. Demonstrate how to be assertive and confident. Teach her how to be respectful and how to treat others with kindness.

Finally, be patient. Growing up can be a difficult process and it can be hard to keep up with your daughter's changing needs. Be patient with her and let her know that you understand her struggles. Offer her guidance but also give her the space she needs to figure things out for herself.



5: Encourage Self-Care


There are several key steps you can take to help your daughter learn to practice self-care. First, model self-care behaviors for her. If she sees you taking care of yourself, she will be more likely to do the same. Make sure you are eating healthy, getting enough sleep, and engaging in activities that bring you joy.

Second, teach her the importance of setting boundaries. Encourage her to say “no” when she needs to and to make sure her own needs are being met. Explain to her that it’s okay to put herself first sometimes.

Third, provide her with plenty of opportunities to practice self-care. Take her to the spa for a day, get her a massage, or take her out for a special meal. These activities will help her to relax and take time for herself.

Finally, talk to her about her feelings. Ask her how she is feeling and listen to her without judgement. Let her know that it’s okay to feel whatever she is feeling and that she can always talk to you about it. This will help her to develop healthy coping skills and to learn how to better take care of herself.


Resilience is an important quality for girls to cultivate in order to achieve success in life. By encouraging independence, teaching problem-solving skills, modeling resilience, providing support, and encouraging self-care, parents can help their daughters become strong, independent, and confident.

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